Depression is common and treatable, but in men it is often missed. Many men do not describe feeling “sad”. Instead, depression can look like frustration, exhaustion or pulling away from the people around them.
Signs that are easy to overlook
- Irritability, anger or a short temper
- Losing interest in work, hobbies or relationships
- Drinking more, or using other substances to cope
- Risk-taking behaviour, such as reckless driving
- Withdrawing from friends and family
- Physical symptoms like headaches, stomach problems or ongoing fatigue
- Sleeping much more or much less than usual
Why men often do not seek help
Pressure to appear strong, not wanting to be a burden, or simply not recognising the signs can all stop men from reaching out. But depression is a health condition, not a weakness, and getting support early usually leads to a faster recovery.
What helps
- Talk to a doctor: they can rule out physical causes and discuss options such as talking therapy, medication or both.
- Tell someone you trust: a partner, friend or family member can help you take the next step.
- Look after the basics: regular sleep, physical activity and limiting alcohol all support recovery.
If you are in crisis
If you are having thoughts of harming yourself, get help right away. In the US you can call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, or contact your local emergency number wherever you are.
This article is for general information only and is not medical advice. Speak with a doctor or mental health professional about your own situation.